Acceptance

Here we are the last day of another month and 2006 is about to slide into its eighth month. Time seems to fly by at a horrendous rate. The little book of James tells us our lives are like a vapour appearing for a little while then vanishing forever. I stood at Jill’s grave yesterday afternoon and I was caught by that little phrase, “Vanishing forever”. How death has a finality to it that some people don’t grasp. Jill’s life on this earth has vanished forever, it’s different and the kids and I have had to make the appropriate changes. Oh we have the memories which are great but we can no longer hold on to her, she’s gone, vanished forever from time but praise God that’s not the end, she is with Christ which the Apostle Paul reminds us is far better.
If you find yourself in a similar position today and you’ve lost someone close can I speak tenderly and lovingly to you. You must move on, you can build an illusive dream world of make believe and try to live as if it hasn’t happened but sooner or later it will tumble down round you like a house of cards and leave you empty and broken. Or you can accept the fact that it’s different, painful and real, it has happened and you can’t change it but you can change you. Acceptance is by far the best but most painful route, I quote Verdall Davis once again, “Acceptance opens the wound to it’s depths but allows it to heal from the inside out”.