Listeners

I am not an expert on grief but there are a few observations I have made over the last 3+ months. One is that grief is universal, everywhere there are people in grief. At the same time it is powerfully personal and one needs to talk but to do that you need some listeners. Grief needs to be expressed like the old steam engines, unless it can get out in a controlled way it will explode and wreck everything. I thank God each day that He brought around me some listeners. Now I am aware I've told these people the same thing over and over and over again but they keep listening and thats what one needs. If you are in grief today you need to find these people in your life who will give you permission to talk or waffle as I call it. They are not advisers although I now value thier opinion above all others but they don't tell you how to do it they just listen. I get a phone call and the person will say, "Do you need to talk". Man this is so vital because if you go for grief counsel and that might be important for you all as they will encourage you to do is talk. How do you find these people? Its easy. They will be the ones that don't finish your sentences or go on to a different subject before you've finished speaking, they don't talk about what they would do if they where you as a matter of fact sometimes they don't talk at all. In my job I love to listen but Here I am needing listeners. I will be eternally greatful to God for placing them in my life and for you my fellow grievers, find some LISTENERS, its absolutly vital.
Love yas